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You timid little munchkins haven’t been sending as many questions lately, so my buddies here set up a poll asking you what you wanted me to talk about! After the jump: the results!
Q: What is proper etiquette for having sex when you have a roommate?
All right! In my opinion, there’s no set etiquette for sexual conduct when you have a roommate (besides the obvious “don’t-start-having-sex-directly-in-front-of-your-roommate-or-blatantly-disrespecting-their-space” rule). Figuring out the arrangement that works best in your household requires – you guessed it – communication! Set up a protocol for room use, be it a text and a confirmation at least a half an hour before the event, verbal permission through a phone call, or anything else that makes the two of you comfortable. Set limits on which days you and your roommate can use the room for sex purposes, because seriously, no one likes to be sexiled on a school night. Stick to the rules you both have created, and if you feel an exception is necessary, verbally talk out the situation. Don’t be afraid to say no if your roommate wants something you don’t. You have just as much of a right to the space as they do. Excess communication is better than your roommate walking in on you doin’ the nasty (or vice versa)!
Q: Talk about threesomes!
Okay, I’ve already covered how to ask someone if they’d like to participate in a threesome. If your prospective partner has accepted your proposal, it’s time to lay out some ground rules! Have an honest (and sober!) group discussion with all participants laying out what makes each person comfortable and what doesn’t. Taking notes might not be a bad idea; the last thing you want to do is make anyone feel uneasy or anxious during what is supposed to be a fun event. Once you have some boundaries established, feel free to set up a time and place for the act. During sex, make sure to adhere to the rules you previously established, and try not to throw any curveballs. Have fun, but be conscious of your partners!