In our fast paced modern world, it seems like everything has gone to the cyber realm, even dating. There are a lot of hip apps out there to find you your special someone, but without a doubt Tinder is one of the heavy hitters. A hopeless romantic, I found myself drawn to its addictively easy to navigate interface, navigating between faces for hours on end. When it came to the messaging part, however, I found that I had a lot to learn. Here are a couple of methods I employed during my first foray into the world of Tinder, at the beginning of summer break.
Method #1: Be direct.
This match and I chose the same approach, and while I would rate this approach as positive, in that it was efficient and unambiguous, I would also say it was kind of a negative, as it did not result in a further romance. Overall neutral, I suppose.
Method #2: Ask questions.
Taking this approach let me into the mind of my match, which was definitely a positive experience in so much as I got to know what he was looking for in our potential future together. While we were both looking for true love, I wasn’t quite ready to jump into “the fun part” so soon, so it didn’t end up happening for us.
Method #3: Be skeptical.
A wise person once said, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” I echo this sentiment, as I only very narrowly avoided falling into this trap. Good for me, bad for our forever love.
Method #4: Give them what they want.
There’s something to be said for putting your money where your mouth is. Or your pizza. I would say this was mutually beneficial, in so much as he got what he wanted (pizza) and I was validated that my skills at finding the pizza emoji were not only adequate but appreciated.
Method #6: Be honest.
This was by far the most successful method. I cannot stress how important it is to be yourself! You might be surprised how well it goes for you!!!
BONUS: How NOT to message on Tinder.