How to Respond to Tinder Messages: A Few Methods

In our fast paced modern world, it seems like everything has gone to the cyber realm, even dating. There are a lot of hip apps out there to find you your special someone, but without a doubt Tinder is one of the heavy hitters. A hopeless romantic, I found myself drawn to its addictively easy to navigate interface, navigating between faces for hours on end. When it came to the messaging part, however, I found that I had a lot to learn. Here are a couple of methods I employed during my first foray into the world of Tinder, at the beginning of summer break.

Method #1: Be direct.

Direct approach in action

Direct approach in action

This match and I chose the same approach, and while I would rate this approach as positive, in that it was efficient and unambiguous, I would also say it was kind of a negative, as it did not result in a further romance. Overall neutral, I suppose.

Method #2: Ask questions.

You'll never know unless you ask.

You’ll never know unless you ask

Taking this approach let me into the mind of my match, which was definitely a positive experience in so much as I got to know what he was looking for in our potential future together. While we were both looking for true love, I wasn’t quite ready to jump into “the fun part” so soon, so it didn’t end up happening for us.

Method #3: Be skeptical.

Don't let them off the hook so easy.

Don’t let them off the hook so easy.

A wise person once said, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” I echo this sentiment, as I only very narrowly avoided falling into this trap. Good for me, bad for our forever love.

Method #4: Give them what they want.

Sometimes it's ok to just let 'em have it.

Sometimes it’s ok to just let ’em have it.

There’s something to be said for putting your money where your mouth is. Or your pizza. I would say this was mutually beneficial, in so much as he got what he wanted (pizza) and I was validated that my skills at finding the pizza emoji were not only adequate but appreciated.

Method #6: Be honest.

Keepin' it real.

Keepin’ it real.

This was by far the most successful method. I cannot stress how important it is to be yourself! You might be surprised how well it goes for you!!!

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BONUS: How NOT to message on Tinder.

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