Kenyon Confessions is teeming with unanswered questions about queer life. We queer beans on theThrill staff (and a few guests) have taken it upon ourselves to answer your questions about queer life at Kenyon! Queeries (new title courtesy of former Thrill editor Sarah Cohen-Smith ’14) will regularly feature a new queer-identifying Kenyon student who will offer their perspective about questions you submit to the Thrill (via firstname.lastname@example.org) or post on Kenyon Confessions.
Q: I want to tell my friends that I am bi and I know they will accept me, but I don’t want my super religious, gay hating, judgmental family to ever find out. I feel so trapped and there is a guy I know I could be happy with. I just can’t date him because of the fear that my family will completely disown me. Fuck.
Your safety is most important. If you’re worried that your family will disown you or that coming out would be in any way be unsafe for you, then coming out to your family while you’re still under their roof may not be an option. Remember that if you are not out to your family and you do choose to be in a queer relationship on campus, then you need to be really careful about what you/others post on Facebook. I speak from experience. It’s all so shitty, I know and I’m sorry and I feel for you. Thankfully, there are plenty of resources out there for you online and on campus. I have found that Kenyon is an extremely supportive community for queer students.
Q: I’m straight woman, but I only masturbate to lesbian/gay porn.
Guess what? That’s great! I found an interesting article about this online which explains why women are more likely to look up lesbian porn… because statistically, we are! What’s going on?? Apparently, straight porn focuses on the male orgasm far more than the female orgasm. Cunnilingus lasts for like 2.5 seconds in straight porn, whereas in lesbian porn, it’s the main attraction. Which would you rather watch as a woman? What I like about the article is that it acknowledges that even “lesbian” porn is super male gaze-y and fetishizes the sexuality. That pisses me off. But hey, the porn industry recognizes this and they’re starting to make more and more feminist/queer porn! Wohoo! I’d link you some but that could be too weird.
Q: I am a lesbian. I only like women. I know how to tell everyone, except for my boyfriend.
“Try not to take this too personally, but I am a lesbian. I need you to respect that. Adieu.” **Mounts griffin and soars towards glittery rainbow kingdom far, far away.**
Have more Queeries? E-mail your questions to email@example.com or post them on Kenyon Confessions and we will do our best to find them!
Want to get on the dislist for a queer organization on campus? Queer Men’s/Women’s organizations are completely confidential and hold weekly meetings. Unity House meetings are held in NCA 3A at 3:00 p.m. on Sundays. E-mail the accounts below if you are interested in being added to the dis-list!
- Queer Men’s Society: firstname.lastname@example.org, email@example.com.
- Queer Women’s Collective: firstname.lastname@example.org.
- Unity House: email@example.com.
- Athletes for Equality: firstname.lastname@example.org.