10 o’clock list: 5 Ways to Come Out (If You Want!/If You Can!)
Like we said, today is National Coming Out Day! Woohoo! Coming out can be an amazing experience, though for a lot of people, it may not be the best option. There is a wide variety of reasons why people do or don’t feel comfortable and secure coming out, and across the board, those reasons are real and valid. Even if you have the privilege of being able to come out without it affecting your safety or circumstances, it can be a really scary process, frequently one that takes your whole life time. Personally, four years ago, I thought I would never come out, two years ago I told my best friend in her Caples dingle, one year ago I told my mom in the car after a doctor’s appointment and this past Friday I came out to some of my newer friends during a stand-up open mic. Right now, I’m coming out to some people reading this. HEY, I’M QUEER. Cool.
If you feel like coming out is the move you want to make, that’s awesome! Here are some ideas:
- Up in the Clouds: Coming out is kind of a big deal, and sky-writing is big. Like the letters are so big. You can just take whoever you want on a walk and say, “Hey, what’s that over there?” and point at the sky-writing and then say, “Oh yeah, that’s about me.”
- The Breakfast Club: Modify your toaster so it toasts “I’M GAY” (or your message of choice) on every slice. Invite your friends and family over for breakfast! Make them some toast!
- Front Page News: Edit and design your own newspaper about coming out, with the headline “THAT’S RIGHT! I’M COMING OUT!” and then articles about your experience living as yourself and deciding to come out, your hopes and fears and dreams, etc. Print out at least one copy. Say, “Hey, you seen the news today?” and hand it to the person you want to come out to, let ’em read it. Crazy world we live in.
- Far Flung: Write your coming out message on a frisbee and tell your buddy to go long!
- Old Reliable: Just say it. Either face to face or over the phone, or if it makes you more comfortable, over text or email. It can be really nerve-wracking, but it’s definitely a very direct, honest way to say what you want to say, and hopefully whoever you’re telling appreciates the effort you’re putting in to connect with them.
All the best of luck, no matter what your situation is!