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When I was younger, I thought I was one of the few that could escape society’s trap. I thought I could be one of those girls that orders a burger and doesn’t think twice about it. I thought that if I was good at basketball and soccer and softball, I would not think about what my body looked like. I was wrong.
As a child and in my early teens, I never looked at food labels, besides that one time in freshman-year summer school health class when we recorded what we ate for a week. I was playing four hours of soccer a day that summer, and I ate more than almost all my peers. I was proud of it. Slowly, though, things began to change. In our junior year of high school, my best friend started counting calories on her phone. I noticed pouches of fat where I had never noticed them before. Before I knew it, I had fallen into the cycle I always believed I could avoid.
In a matter of a few months, I lost over twenty pounds. My life was governed by rules about what I ate and when I exercised. No more than 800 calories before dinner. No pizza. No red meat. No ice cream. Late in the evening, after soccer practice, I would sometimes slip out to the track and run a few miles. I carried hard candies in my backpack because sometimes I would get uncontrollably dizzy from hunger. I did not get my period for an entire year, until my doctor prescribed me birth control to start it again.
Of course, my parents grew concerned. However, I always stayed right at the threshold of a medically dangerous weight, so I could excuse it with “I’m just exercising more,” or, “I’m trying to eat a little healthier.” The obsessive behaviors that were difficult at first became habits that continued into the beginning of college. I maintained this weight until sophomore year, when in the midst of my first relationship and the first time I allowed myself to have fun, I gained it all back.
I wish I could say that gaining the weight cured me. I wish I could say that I love my body now. Some days, I do. Some days, all I can do is pinch the fat on my body and yell internally because I lost the illusion of self-control I once had. The truth is, when you have a bad relationship with your body, you are constantly engaged in a game of tug-of-war that you can never win. My hope for myself and for everyone fighting the same battle is that even when we are having a bad day, we keep tugging.