Hey, queer human beans & allies of Kenyon! Remember me? In case you’ve forgotten, I’m Caitie March ’19, one of the writers for Queer 101. Today’s article is going to be a bit different from all the others, because I’m going to be talking about my own ~personal experiences~ here at Kenyon!! Long story short, gender is weird, coming out is weird, and I’d really like to talk about it. I hope y’all will be down to talk about it, too.
There are many ways to come out to your friends and family. Some of them involve sitting down and talking to your family. However, that’s boring. Why do that when you can either accidentally come out to people or come up with inventive ways to do so?
- My favorite way that I’ve came out to someone was when I accidentally came out to my Grandma and Aunt on Twitter. So, basically, I forgot that Twitter wasn’t just me shouting into the void and tweeted something about Hillary Clinton being the candidate who cared about LGBT equality and thus me. A couple of days later, my Grandma replied to the tweet saying she loved me and supported me. A couple of minutes after that, my Aunt texted me with a similar message. I wasn’t sure how to respond and was kind of overwhelmed, so I didn’t respond to them right away. When I did, I opened with, “This isn’t how I imagined coming out to the family, but…” Continue reading
Like we said, today is National Coming Out Day! Woohoo! Coming out can be an amazing experience, though for a lot of people, it may not be the best option. There is a wide variety of reasons why people do or don’t feel comfortable and secure coming out, and across the board, those reasons are real and valid. Even if you have the privilege of being able to come out without it affecting your safety or circumstances, it can be a really scary process, frequently one that takes your whole life time. Personally, four years ago, I thought I would never come out, two years ago I told my best friend in her Caples dingle, one year ago I told my mom in the car after a doctor’s appointment and this past Friday I came out to some of my newer friends during a stand-up open mic. Right now, I’m coming out to some people reading this. HEY, I’M QUEER. Cool.
If you feel like coming out is the move you want to make, that’s awesome! Here are some ideas:
- Up in the Clouds: Coming out is kind of a big deal, and sky-writing is big. Like the letters are so big. You can just take whoever you want on a walk and say, “Hey, what’s that over there?” and point at the sky-writing and then say, “Oh yeah, that’s about me.” Continue reading
Happy National Coming Out Day! Coming out is something that every queer-identifying individual must face at some point in their lives. It’s nerve-wracking, freeing, terrifying, and it takes an enormous amount of courage to do. Today, we have stories from various Kenyon students about their experiences with coming out.
“Because I’m kind of “girly” (i.e: pretty much everything I own is pink and I dressed up as Tinkerbell last Halloween), I often run into the problem of people assuming I’m straight. That’s why the phrase “Actually, I’m Gay” became my best friend when I started coming out this past summer. Maybe one day I’ll change my aesthetic, but for now, I’m gonna stick to the frilly dresses. I like them a lot, and (as we all know) nobody should have to change what they like if they don’t want to” – Caitlyn March ’19
Kenyon Confessions is teeming with unanswered questions about queer life. We queer beans on theThrill staff (and a few guests) have taken it upon ourselves to answer your questions about queer life at Kenyon! Queeries (new title courtesy of former Thrill editor Sarah Cohen-Smith ’14) will regularly feature a new queer-identifying Kenyon student who will offer their perspective about questions you submit to the Thrill (via firstname.lastname@example.org) or post on Kenyon Confessions. Continue reading